Get over the pronoun hump. Do it now.
I’m annoyed that we’re still talking about pronouns.
Not to sound salty, but I came out as genderqueer in the year 1999, when trans politics were still playing out on LiveJournal. At the time, my friends and I advocated fiercely for the use of the gender-neutral pronouns “ze” and “hir.” We were told over and over that these singular gender-neutral terms were too difficult or clunky to adopt. And yet, when some trans and nonbinary people began to promote the use of “they” and “them” instead, the grammatical incorrectness of “they” as a singular pronoun suddenly became paramount. Some cis people even had the nerve to ask, “Why can’t someone just invent a singular gender-neutral pronoun?” We did—and y’all ignored us.
Calling someone by a given word is not a struggle unless you make it one—it’s basic etiquette.
Two uneasy decades have passed, and somehow, cisgender people are still making a big deal out of pronouns. See, for example, the recent flap over Associated Press coverage of singer Sam Smith: in an article about Smith’s choice to use “they” pronouns, the AP continued to refer to the singer as “he.” This despite the fact that the AP’s own stylebook okays the use of “they” as a singular pronoun.
It should not be hard for journalists to ask for people’s pronouns and then to use them correctly. Pronouns are a big deal to trans and nonbinary people, because animosity toward our pronouns
Read more here: https://www.cjr.org/analysis/trans-nonbinary-subjects-tips.php